Comments on: Ten years ago today

By: Mary Owlhaven

Mary Owlhaven — Thu, 27 Dec 2007 05:36:02 +0000

I think one other reason a husband might be hesitant is because men often feel deeeply responsible for whether the family sinks or swims financially. All children cost money, but an adopted child takes an evey bigger up-front investment that can concern a guy who takes his responsiblity to his family seriously.
Mary

By: John

John — Thu, 27 Dec 2007 04:57:40 +0000

Shawn, hard hearted? I had the opposite problem, I wanted to adopt again, and my ex did not. I dearly wanted her to change her mind, but I never once thought of her as hard hearted. Let me give some reasons a husband may be reluctant. He senses that his wife will put most or all of her focus on the child, and he will become an after thought. Another reason, he can see the issues on dividing the duties. Wife is likely to see herself as the poor overworked mom doing the real work and married to the lazy lout that just won’t take over the moment he gets home form work. Or, he can see that his wife is likely to see herself as in command, once she enters into this great undertaking. Marriage is a partnership, thinking that only you have the right thoughts is not likely to work well. John

By: fourgoingon7

fourgoingon7 — Thu, 27 Dec 2007 00:20:43 +0000

I justlove your story! I had a similar experience. I knew clearly that God had placed adoption on my heart. I prayed and prayed that the feeling would go away or God would change my husband’s heart. One evening he gave me a ring with a stone for each of our children and it had one extra stone. I cried with such excitement and awe when I realized it was his way of saying ” Let the journey begin!” We hope to leave next month to pick up our son. He is already listening to me about getting another home study started for our next adoption too:) God does work in our hearts so we will match His plan. Thank you for your work Mary!

By: 4givenagain

4givenagain — Thu, 27 Dec 2007 00:00:37 +0000

Awwww, thanks for sharing that touching story!

By: shawndauganda

shawndauganda — Wed, 26 Dec 2007 23:17:09 +0000

beautiful!!! thanks for sharing! and so glad the Lord softened your husbands heart!!!!!!!