Comments on: Jump-Starting Attachment http://ethiopia.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/juump-starting-infant-attachment Ethiopia adoption news, information and firsthand accounts by those who have been there. Fri, 20 Nov 2009 17:53:02 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Sara http://ethiopia.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/juump-starting-infant-attachment/comment-page-1#comment-2027 Sara Wed, 01 Mar 2006 03:08:52 +0000 http://ethiopia-ado.www.adoptionblogs.com/2006/02/28/juump-starting-infant-attachment#comment-2027 My adopted son is about 26 or 27 pounds and we just got the Ergo baby carrier. The ABC I made was getting uncomfortable since he's getting to be such a big guy now. So far the Ergo seems pretty comfortable. We don't take him on hikes or anything with it but walking for several blocks is fine. My adopted son is about 26 or 27 pounds and we just got the Ergo baby carrier. The ABC I made was getting uncomfortable since he’s getting to be such a big guy now. So far the Ergo seems pretty comfortable. We don’t take him on hikes or anything with it but walking for several blocks is fine.

]]> By: Sebrina http://ethiopia.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/juump-starting-infant-attachment/comment-page-1#comment-2026 Sebrina Tue, 28 Feb 2006 22:38:19 +0000 http://ethiopia-ado.www.adoptionblogs.com/2006/02/28/juump-starting-infant-attachment#comment-2026 I have three children, all biological. From birth I have nursed all three, slept with all three and carried them all in a sling. My 6 and 4 year old now share a room, but my two year old is still happily nursing and co-sleeping. I have also never used those baby bath things. I always just bathed with my babies (me or my husband). I never let them cry alone. I always try and soothe them and make them feel better. I am also homeschooling all my children. I plan to use all of the above with our new child (we are adopting a little baby girl from Ethiopia). I am just loving your blog. I find it so wonderful to see attachment parenting ideas in the adoptive community. I hope more people will realize that these are wonderful options for our children. <br /> Sebrina<br /> I have three children, all biological. From birth I have nursed all three, slept with all three and carried them all in a sling. My 6 and 4 year old now share a room, but my two year old is still happily nursing and co-sleeping. I have also never used those baby bath things. I always just bathed with my babies (me or my husband). I never let them cry alone. I always try and soothe them and make them feel better. I am also homeschooling all my children. I plan to use all of the above with our new child (we are adopting a little baby girl from Ethiopia). I am just loving your blog. I find it so wonderful to see attachment parenting ideas in the adoptive community. I hope more people will realize that these are wonderful options for our children.
Sebrina

]]> By: Mary Owlhaven http://ethiopia.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/juump-starting-infant-attachment/comment-page-1#comment-2025 Mary Owlhaven Tue, 28 Feb 2006 20:52:53 +0000 http://ethiopia-ado.www.adoptionblogs.com/2006/02/28/juump-starting-infant-attachment#comment-2025 Force feed a bottle or food? No, I wouldn't feel comfortable with that either. What I have done is offered choice morsels and little treats, with a smile and an enthusiastic 'yum!' And though it seems counterintuitive to offer a bottle to a 2 year old who hasn't had one in awhile, if the child is interested, they find it very nurturing and it is a great way to bond. <br /> <br /> I think lots of people are afraid of sending their kids back to babyhood with this type of thing-- like they'll be babies forever. But really it allows the toddler to GET maybe for the first time, a critical stage of nurturing that they missed out on, get stronger emotionally, and then move on in a healthy way when he or she is ready.<br /> <br /> Thanks for the comments!<br /> <br /> Mary Force feed a bottle or food? No, I wouldn’t feel comfortable with that either. What I have done is offered choice morsels and little treats, with a smile and an enthusiastic ‘yum!’ And though it seems counterintuitive to offer a bottle to a 2 year old who hasn’t had one in awhile, if the child is interested, they find it very nurturing and it is a great way to bond.

I think lots of people are afraid of sending their kids back to babyhood with this type of thing– like they’ll be babies forever. But really it allows the toddler to GET maybe for the first time, a critical stage of nurturing that they missed out on, get stronger emotionally, and then move on in a healthy way when he or she is ready.

Thanks for the comments!

Mary

]]> By: Enat http://ethiopia.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/juump-starting-infant-attachment/comment-page-1#comment-2024 Enat Tue, 28 Feb 2006 19:04:27 +0000 http://ethiopia-ado.www.adoptionblogs.com/2006/02/28/juump-starting-infant-attachment#comment-2024 With our son (21 months when he came home), the things I remember consciously doing to build the bonds of attachment (aside from the things already mentioned) were<br /> <br /> 1) having my son lie on the couch with me, me on my back, him on his stomach on my stomach, after he woke up from his nap to help ease him back into the day<br /> <br /> 2) singing to him ... A LOT<br /> <br /> 3) reading to him ... A LOT, all snuggled up together<br /> <br /> I was told by some people that I should force my son to take a bottle or be hand-fed by me, but these things did not feel comfortable to us, so we didn't do them. With our son (21 months when he came home), the things I remember consciously doing to build the bonds of attachment (aside from the things already mentioned) were

1) having my son lie on the couch with me, me on my back, him on his stomach on my stomach, after he woke up from his nap to help ease him back into the day

2) singing to him … A LOT

3) reading to him … A LOT, all snuggled up together

I was told by some people that I should force my son to take a bottle or be hand-fed by me, but these things did not feel comfortable to us, so we didn’t do them.

]]> By: Jeniffer http://ethiopia.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/juump-starting-infant-attachment/comment-page-1#comment-2023 Jeniffer Tue, 28 Feb 2006 16:41:29 +0000 http://ethiopia-ado.www.adoptionblogs.com/2006/02/28/juump-starting-infant-attachment#comment-2023 Hi!<br /> <br /> I just want to comment on how EXTREMELY helpful this blog has been to me--I am also planning to adopt a child from Ethiopia (in the future). I was so delighted to find this blog and really appreciate that you take the time to write it.<br /> <br /> Sincere Thanks!<br /> --Jen Hi!

I just want to comment on how EXTREMELY helpful this blog has been to me–I am also planning to adopt a child from Ethiopia (in the future). I was so delighted to find this blog and really appreciate that you take the time to write it.

Sincere Thanks!
–Jen

]]> By: Naomi http://ethiopia.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/juump-starting-infant-attachment/comment-page-1#comment-2021 Naomi Tue, 28 Feb 2006 16:02:32 +0000 http://ethiopia-ado.www.adoptionblogs.com/2006/02/28/juump-starting-infant-attachment#comment-2021 I could never get a sling to work, although they look really really neat. In the past, we introduced our new arrivals slowly to new faces, and made sure that they spent the most time with just the two of us, so there was no question as to who the parents were, or where home was. I could never get a sling to work, although they look really really neat. In the past, we introduced our new arrivals slowly to new faces, and made sure that they spent the most time with just the two of us, so there was no question as to who the parents were, or where home was.

]]> By: Nancy Spoolstra http://ethiopia.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/juump-starting-infant-attachment/comment-page-1#comment-2022 Nancy Spoolstra Tue, 28 Feb 2006 15:42:50 +0000 http://ethiopia-ado.www.adoptionblogs.com/2006/02/28/juump-starting-infant-attachment#comment-2022 Front facing strollers and cream baths... and we LIVED in the rocking chair! My daughter STILL wants to be rocked every night, and she's now nine! Front facing strollers and cream baths… and we LIVED in the rocking chair! My daughter STILL wants to be rocked every night, and she’s now nine!

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