Comments on: Bonding and Super-glue

By: ourownrooney

ourownrooney — Mon, 19 Nov 2007 18:27:27 +0000

This is such a great post. I always need encouragement to just be myself, and I love here the honesty you’ve written about. Thanks for that.

By: shawndauganda

shawndauganda — Mon, 19 Nov 2007 03:19:24 +0000

Ahhhh! Thanks so MUCH for sharing, Mary!!!! It’s been a JOY to watch you go through this adoption with your girls! I’ve loved seeing what I feel is a new side of you! Keep sharing with us – it’s SO helpful!!!!

And that’s a BEAUTIFUL pic of you two!!!!

By: Lisa W

Lisa W — Sun, 18 Nov 2007 15:18:27 +0000

What a perfect picture. Her smile is captivating. I just love how you came to explain how the “Fruit of your tree is growing.” You are so right. One of my favorite sayings is “To get to the fruit of the tree, you’ve got to go out on a limb.” Your entire family is going “out on a limb” by incorporating all of the love and support and smiles, all of those little things that make up the fruit. What a beautiful tree you are growing.

By: Sunbonnet Sue

Sunbonnet Sue — Sat, 17 Nov 2007 21:40:16 +0000

Beautiful picture!

yes, sometimes the losses in our lives last a lifetime. especially, I think, for a child. That does not mean a child is “stuck” and cannot love anyone else. It just means the pain lingers and comes around from time to time. Children simply do not have the ability to comprehend death at all. Plus, euphamisms are used. The parent was “lost” or is now “gone.” No, the parent is dead. Then begins the long, long process of helping the child to understand what death is. and why that unfairness had to happen in their lives.

By: horselover

horselover — Sat, 17 Nov 2007 00:02:54 +0000

It is SO good to know I am not alone. This is just what I needed today.

By: Nancy Spoolstra

Nancy Spoolstra — Fri, 16 Nov 2007 20:24:43 +0000

Same here, Mary. You write about the exact stuff I am going through again here. Dora has much grief, much anger, much in the way of trust issues… it will take time to build this relationship.

By: specialfamily

specialfamily — Fri, 16 Nov 2007 15:50:36 +0000

That was beautiful to read, it made me cry…