Comments on: Adoption Loss: talking about the ‘why’ http://ethiopia.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/adoption-loss-talking-about-the-why Ethiopia adoption news, information and firsthand accounts by those who have been there. Fri, 20 Nov 2009 17:53:02 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Dixiefern http://ethiopia.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/adoption-loss-talking-about-the-why/comment-page-1#comment-1185 Dixiefern Fri, 06 Jul 2007 21:30:49 +0000 http://ethiopia-ado.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/06/28/adoption-loss-talking-about-the-why#comment-1185 I know the birthmom had my daughter's best interest at heart, but the hard part is that she has four other kids she's kept. How can I tell my daughter this without her wondering why she was different than the others? I think that bit will best be kept to myself, at least for now. Thanks for this topic. It is timely for me! I know the birthmom had my daughter’s best interest at heart, but the hard part is that she has four other kids she’s kept. How can I tell my daughter this without her wondering why she was different than the others? I think that bit will best be kept to myself, at least for now. Thanks for this topic. It is timely for me!

]]> By: Quesita http://ethiopia.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/adoption-loss-talking-about-the-why/comment-page-1#comment-1184 Quesita Fri, 06 Jul 2007 14:31:40 +0000 http://ethiopia-ado.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/06/28/adoption-loss-talking-about-the-why#comment-1184 Great post! I am still in the adoption process, but I think about this question often. My beautiful daughter's bmom has had to show up 4 times for 4 different DNA tests (long story) and each time one is scheduled, she shows up with only one day's notice. My attorney has told me that she is anxious to help, that she wants what is best for the baby. <br /> <br /> You have no idea how comforting I find this. <br /> <br /> I will meet the bmom eventually, and hear her stories. But until then, I know... Great post! I am still in the adoption process, but I think about this question often. My beautiful daughter’s bmom has had to show up 4 times for 4 different DNA tests (long story) and each time one is scheduled, she shows up with only one day’s notice. My attorney has told me that she is anxious to help, that she wants what is best for the baby.

You have no idea how comforting I find this.

I will meet the bmom eventually, and hear her stories. But until then, I know…

]]> By: Abby http://ethiopia.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/adoption-loss-talking-about-the-why/comment-page-1#comment-1183 Abby Fri, 29 Jun 2007 06:37:07 +0000 http://ethiopia-ado.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/06/28/adoption-loss-talking-about-the-why#comment-1183 Owlhaven,<br /> <br /> Great post. You got me thinking about my question of "why" as an adoptee. I <a href="http://adoptee.adoptionblogs.com/index.php/weblogs/adoptee-and-question-of-why">shared my experience here</a> and will share more thought later. Thanks:)<br /> <br /> Abby Owlhaven,

Great post. You got me thinking about my question of “why” as an adoptee. I shared my experience here and will share more thought later. Thanks:)

Abby

]]> By: elissa http://ethiopia.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/adoption-loss-talking-about-the-why/comment-page-1#comment-1182 elissa Thu, 28 Jun 2007 20:37:50 +0000 http://ethiopia-ado.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/06/28/adoption-loss-talking-about-the-why#comment-1182 What do you say when you know they threw the child out literally? We are adopting a 7 yr old amputee from Ethiopia who's parents threw him out of their small village at the age of 5. How do we handle that? I have gone over and over in my mind what can I say in those moments? I am still at a loss, I don't know what to do. I have time but I would love anyones advice in this area. What do you say when you know they threw the child out literally? We are adopting a 7 yr old amputee from Ethiopia who’s parents threw him out of their small village at the age of 5. How do we handle that? I have gone over and over in my mind what can I say in those moments? I am still at a loss, I don’t know what to do. I have time but I would love anyones advice in this area.

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